You have an unholy relationship with the holy man, said he. I have the holiest communion with him, said she. Friendship, said she. Rules are different for you and I, said he. He said, she said, it all followed - both willing to give a life and a limb for this issue...
How many of us are in this situation everyday? Day in and out, you ought to defend friendships. Do you really have to evaluate the gender of a person before you recruit them as your friends? Right from and through my childhood, I've had more boyfriends than girlfriends. I was more tomboyish instead of being the delicate Barbie's buddy. Life gave me more responsibilities, and I am rather proud to have been very successful in this men-dominated world. My dad looks at me for all decisions that he makes, and I've often won. Sometimes, he frowned...but he smiled when I fought to make my conceived thoughts successful...should I change for someone? I decided NO.
Life is a melee...too precious. Each stone in the melee is worth a thousand memories. Jas, when I see the very many people around me in war, I think of you - you've been a blessing! God has proved again that when in confusion, I should seek him, I did, and I won. Just as always - absolutely victorious!
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
Sunday, June 1, 2008
In continuation to my previous post on my budday...
I should have actually written this long ago...well the evening on my budday was rather a very surprising for me too! A few of my good friends and I had decided to meet at a friend's place who stays close to the office. We then thought of pushing for some nice dinner...and when I reached the venue, I realised that instead of me taking them out, a party was laid out for me!
I was wallowing in self-pity during the day...and I was all exhilirated in the evening! Thanks to everyone who made my day special!
I was wallowing in self-pity during the day...and I was all exhilirated in the evening! Thanks to everyone who made my day special!
Thursday, May 8, 2008
Happy budday to me!
I am a bit confused and a bit lost as I enter my 30s today...I was so happy to enter 20s after my teens...it meant freedom, a career, a marriage, and lots of dreams...Having lived through 20s most of the my dreams are still in the process of being fulfilled, some dreams have been fulfilled, and I now realise that some dreams should just not have been there in the first place.
Anyways, a time machine hasn't been created yet, so irrespective of how much I crib, I cannot go into the past...Its only memories that'll help me re-live my best and worst moments. This birthday of mine is a bit unique, coz for the first time in my life, I am all alone on my most important day...or rather, thats what people call it at least...how many more buddays for me - no idea.
Happy and contented for now, I am thankful to all who wished :) Love you all!
Thanks for making my day special :)
Anyways, a time machine hasn't been created yet, so irrespective of how much I crib, I cannot go into the past...Its only memories that'll help me re-live my best and worst moments. This birthday of mine is a bit unique, coz for the first time in my life, I am all alone on my most important day...or rather, thats what people call it at least...how many more buddays for me - no idea.
Happy and contented for now, I am thankful to all who wished :) Love you all!
Thanks for making my day special :)
Friday, April 11, 2008
The endorphous phase!
Endocrinology - one of my most favorite topic. Rather, the most famous topic that always comes up during typical "women talk". Any and every mood of a woman is always linked to this very famous branch of study. For the non-physiology guys, it just means - Study of hormones.
Mood swings - man, who doesn't have those? You see any woman behaving a bit aggressively, and pat comes the thought - PMS? Well, PMS will never end as long as women live, and its essential they live so that the process of procreation does not stop!
Well, today is one of those days, when I am just laughing! Why - god knows. I am at my bestest today ;) Whats happening? Well, looks like my Pitutary gland finally noticed that I need a smile too and it has just released some Endorphins. Thank you my dear PG! I know we are inseparable :) I am happy, I make others happy, everyone is happy...so why complain?
Mood swings - man, who doesn't have those? You see any woman behaving a bit aggressively, and pat comes the thought - PMS? Well, PMS will never end as long as women live, and its essential they live so that the process of procreation does not stop!
Well, today is one of those days, when I am just laughing! Why - god knows. I am at my bestest today ;) Whats happening? Well, looks like my Pitutary gland finally noticed that I need a smile too and it has just released some Endorphins. Thank you my dear PG! I know we are inseparable :) I am happy, I make others happy, everyone is happy...so why complain?
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
Drowning in Fun
There isn't anything funny about this article...I want all of you to just think twice or may be thrice before you enter water for fun only to realize that you are drowning...
Yesterday's TOI front page carried news of 3 youngsters drowning in Bhatgar dam reservoir in Bhor around 7 pm on Sunday. These youngsters went to the damn to celebrate Gudi Padwa! Gudi Padwa, based on what I know is celebrated at home with family, visiting friends and relatives and exchanging best wishes for the coming new year...Alright, even if I consider that you have got a holiday and wanted to have some fun, you should not enter a dam for swimming!
Time and again, every year, I've seen such incidents happening regularly. Yet, why is it that people do not bother to take basic safety precautions when they enter water? Why the hell should you enter the deep waters if you aren't sure of your swimming skills? I've lost at least 4 friends/acquaintances in my life because of this very same mistake... 2 of these 4 were very good friends of mine...
One was Sachin Phatak, he used to work for Rapidigm in Pune. He was an excellent swimmer, but his swimming skills did not help him when he drowned and died at Hari Hareshwar a couple of years ago...He was a jolly, middle-aged, bald man, and I often used to wonder at his laughing habit. I don't know if he was the same with all of his friends, but with me, he was laughing and smiling and spreading cheer all around. I spoke to him about a week before he passed away, and I remember that conversation word-to-word till date. I am not sure who all are there in his family, but am sure that his untimely death was very difficult for everybody.
Just last year, another friend of mine - Nitesh Aggarwal from IIM Indore drowned at the Choral dam...He had gone with a couple of his friends to celebrate Friendship Day...and never returned. Along with him, another of his classmate drowned too...Since I was in Pune, I did not come to know of this incident immediately...I came to know through the news channels and newspapers, and with a scared heart, I called his number only to realize that it was switched off...I looked up on Orkut for people from IIM-Indore, and reached one of his batchmates, and my worst fears were confirmed...24 years old, intelligent, helpful, cheerful...I dont know what other adjectives should I use to describe Nitesh...He had a wonderful career ahead of him, old parents to take care of...but suddenly everything went haywire. Whose fault is this?
Is it so difficult to restrain ourselves from doing something that might be risky? More so, if we do not know how to protect ourselves from that risk? Why is it that we let go of common sense often, and then brood over accidents...or worse still, our foolishness kills us, and we leave behind our whole family and friends to cry for us? Is it worth it to let go of life for that momentary ego boost or craziness?
Yesterday's TOI front page carried news of 3 youngsters drowning in Bhatgar dam reservoir in Bhor around 7 pm on Sunday. These youngsters went to the damn to celebrate Gudi Padwa! Gudi Padwa, based on what I know is celebrated at home with family, visiting friends and relatives and exchanging best wishes for the coming new year...Alright, even if I consider that you have got a holiday and wanted to have some fun, you should not enter a dam for swimming!
Time and again, every year, I've seen such incidents happening regularly. Yet, why is it that people do not bother to take basic safety precautions when they enter water? Why the hell should you enter the deep waters if you aren't sure of your swimming skills? I've lost at least 4 friends/acquaintances in my life because of this very same mistake... 2 of these 4 were very good friends of mine...
One was Sachin Phatak, he used to work for Rapidigm in Pune. He was an excellent swimmer, but his swimming skills did not help him when he drowned and died at Hari Hareshwar a couple of years ago...He was a jolly, middle-aged, bald man, and I often used to wonder at his laughing habit. I don't know if he was the same with all of his friends, but with me, he was laughing and smiling and spreading cheer all around. I spoke to him about a week before he passed away, and I remember that conversation word-to-word till date. I am not sure who all are there in his family, but am sure that his untimely death was very difficult for everybody.
Just last year, another friend of mine - Nitesh Aggarwal from IIM Indore drowned at the Choral dam...He had gone with a couple of his friends to celebrate Friendship Day...and never returned. Along with him, another of his classmate drowned too...Since I was in Pune, I did not come to know of this incident immediately...I came to know through the news channels and newspapers, and with a scared heart, I called his number only to realize that it was switched off...I looked up on Orkut for people from IIM-Indore, and reached one of his batchmates, and my worst fears were confirmed...24 years old, intelligent, helpful, cheerful...I dont know what other adjectives should I use to describe Nitesh...He had a wonderful career ahead of him, old parents to take care of...but suddenly everything went haywire. Whose fault is this?
Is it so difficult to restrain ourselves from doing something that might be risky? More so, if we do not know how to protect ourselves from that risk? Why is it that we let go of common sense often, and then brood over accidents...or worse still, our foolishness kills us, and we leave behind our whole family and friends to cry for us? Is it worth it to let go of life for that momentary ego boost or craziness?
Sunday, April 6, 2008
The Ass and the Bitch
Two of the most sensible and obedient animals! I often wonder why on earth are these two names used in a derogatory sense when they are used in the context of humans...
A bitch, as I see it from a definition perspective is the female gender of the Canine species. I own three bitches - 2 Labradors and 1 German Shepherd. On a humorous note, a lot of my friends call me the "Bitchy mom" :) Why and how has this term come into being as an abusive term? All the fathers and mothers of English will now rise to say that it is to indicate the very many males she mated with. Aah! OK - But who the hell will consider her obedience, honesty, faithfulness, and unconditional love for her master? Can any human being however good he/she is, ever match the indisputable qualities of a bitch? Just yesterday, I met a gentleman who claimed his earlier girlfriend was a bitch. I was in my good jolly mood enjoying my tasty Sunday brunch and celebrating the birthday of one of my teamies at work...and this man wakes me up from my happy zone! How the hell can you ever try to defame a woman who has been part of your life is a mystery to me...Bark, bark, bark, but I didn't break the bottle. Amongst the numerous men I came across in the last 29 years of my life, I am yet to see a human who doesn't pass a nasty comment on a woman in anger.
Now, comes the dear Ass, the most hardworking animal, load bearing, and obedient. Research has proved that the donkey milk is the closest to the human milk! And in some communities, a donkey's milk is used as infant food! Now why on earth does a lazy and dumb human being get compared to such a hardworking animal?
I am not claiming to be a feminist, but rather, am an advocate of the English language and request you to use the appropriate terms in the right situation :) The next time around, just mind your language!
A bitch, as I see it from a definition perspective is the female gender of the Canine species. I own three bitches - 2 Labradors and 1 German Shepherd. On a humorous note, a lot of my friends call me the "Bitchy mom" :) Why and how has this term come into being as an abusive term? All the fathers and mothers of English will now rise to say that it is to indicate the very many males she mated with. Aah! OK - But who the hell will consider her obedience, honesty, faithfulness, and unconditional love for her master? Can any human being however good he/she is, ever match the indisputable qualities of a bitch? Just yesterday, I met a gentleman who claimed his earlier girlfriend was a bitch. I was in my good jolly mood enjoying my tasty Sunday brunch and celebrating the birthday of one of my teamies at work...and this man wakes me up from my happy zone! How the hell can you ever try to defame a woman who has been part of your life is a mystery to me...Bark, bark, bark, but I didn't break the bottle. Amongst the numerous men I came across in the last 29 years of my life, I am yet to see a human who doesn't pass a nasty comment on a woman in anger.
Now, comes the dear Ass, the most hardworking animal, load bearing, and obedient. Research has proved that the donkey milk is the closest to the human milk! And in some communities, a donkey's milk is used as infant food! Now why on earth does a lazy and dumb human being get compared to such a hardworking animal?
I am not claiming to be a feminist, but rather, am an advocate of the English language and request you to use the appropriate terms in the right situation :) The next time around, just mind your language!
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
For One More Day - Mitch Albom
Wonderful book and an absolute must read. This book bears quite some resemblance to "Five People You Meet in Heaven". Some other readers have even compared it to "Tuesdays with Morrie", but I haven't read it yet. There is so much of compassion...and I wonder if any reader can avoid tears while reading this book...
This book deals with a child - Charles, who grew up mostly with his mother. One weekend, he sneaks out to meet his father, and unfortunately his mother dies that day...Charles, regrets that one day so much so, that he ends up in severe depression, and turns into an alcoholic...and develops suicidal tendencies...
One day, as he decides to end his life, he meets his dead mother somewhere in the intermediary world...he is transported back to the day his mom died, and he gets to spend his entire day with his mother. He realizes how much his mother loved him, and tries to understand her life...and this makes him realise that he needs to improve his own life...Will Charles be able to return to his original world? Read the book to find out...
A fundoo book that really emphasizes relationships...and how no relationship should really be taken for granted because you never know when will you miss a loved one forever...How many of you want that one chance? I want to go back to 11 Dec 1992...
This book deals with a child - Charles, who grew up mostly with his mother. One weekend, he sneaks out to meet his father, and unfortunately his mother dies that day...Charles, regrets that one day so much so, that he ends up in severe depression, and turns into an alcoholic...and develops suicidal tendencies...
One day, as he decides to end his life, he meets his dead mother somewhere in the intermediary world...he is transported back to the day his mom died, and he gets to spend his entire day with his mother. He realizes how much his mother loved him, and tries to understand her life...and this makes him realise that he needs to improve his own life...Will Charles be able to return to his original world? Read the book to find out...
A fundoo book that really emphasizes relationships...and how no relationship should really be taken for granted because you never know when will you miss a loved one forever...How many of you want that one chance? I want to go back to 11 Dec 1992...
Monday, March 31, 2008
Marley and me - John Grogan
An absolute must read for all dog lovers...Marley is a sweet labrador (looks so much like my Betty...). He is strong, gluttony, and intelligent, but just does not want to understand humans :) His behavior does force you to think of some kind of mental retardation...but whatever it is, you cannot stop loving the little thing though it destroys every thing around!
For those of you who haven't yet decided on having kids, I suggest you to strongly read this book, and get a puppy like Marley...trust me, your patience will grow by leaps and bounds, and you will never ever growl at your kids :) I wonder if you will ever find a more comforting friend than Marley when you see the love and care that he showers on his owner when she suffers a miscarriage...This teaches you one thing - Give and take love in spite of all the imperfections...
I did not like the fact that Marley was put to sleep for repeated occurances of bloat...may be the author should have taken some risk and should have got him operated...This reminds me of my own little labrador Tiny who died on 3rd Nov 2006 following a complete kidney failure at the age of just 14 months. Yes, we did put it in lots of sleepless days and nights to get her treated knowing that she wouldn't recover, but still she was my kid - my dog, my Tiny. God bless her soul.
Coming back to the book, read it...you cannot help falling in love with Marley.
For those of you who haven't yet decided on having kids, I suggest you to strongly read this book, and get a puppy like Marley...trust me, your patience will grow by leaps and bounds, and you will never ever growl at your kids :) I wonder if you will ever find a more comforting friend than Marley when you see the love and care that he showers on his owner when she suffers a miscarriage...This teaches you one thing - Give and take love in spite of all the imperfections...
I did not like the fact that Marley was put to sleep for repeated occurances of bloat...may be the author should have taken some risk and should have got him operated...This reminds me of my own little labrador Tiny who died on 3rd Nov 2006 following a complete kidney failure at the age of just 14 months. Yes, we did put it in lots of sleepless days and nights to get her treated knowing that she wouldn't recover, but still she was my kid - my dog, my Tiny. God bless her soul.
Coming back to the book, read it...you cannot help falling in love with Marley.
Sunday, March 30, 2008
Me and just me!
Being a narcissist, I thought the first post on my blog should be about me!
I've already given out my first characterisitic, the second title that I would like to give myself is - Superwoman. If you ask me why, I do have the patience to answer your questions.
I am trying to be a philosopher of late...to rediscover the already known challenges of life. But then, life and living has been a favorite subject of so many over the centuries, and as long as life exists, the challenges of life will always have to be revisited. Not every experience in ones life can be passed down as a document or a fable, and its absolutely justified if you are asked to find your own way. Of course, when our parents tried to show us the way, we shoo'ed them off...at least I did, and now I get no suggestions though I ask for them!
Anyways, that has not really deterred me from making my decisions...but then, yes, I have always revisited all my decisions :) Not that I regret them, but yes, I do think of them. I know I haven't done my best yet, and I wait for the Lord to show me the way...Now, there are many who will say, that whatever happens for the best, and that all actions are guided by the supernatural power...if that is so, then why dont we accept every decision as god's own and learn to live by it? May be we shouldn't have grown up...and never had got into the ocean of conflicting thoughts...I watch my 4 year old son in awe, he believes his mom is the best! And me, I am always thinking...always revisiting...seeking and offering advice...whatever.
Anyways, you will not always find me talking about just this boring thing...I will have lots of other thoughts too here...and BTW, does anyone know of any piece of writing that is 100% fictional?
And yes, here is my BIG disclaimer - Whatever I write here, is just mine, in other words, copyrighted :) I am known to express my opinions in the most criticizing way always - but then, it is just an opinion, and they are highly dynamic. I welcome you all to share your thoughts on whatever I say...I love debates.
I've already given out my first characterisitic, the second title that I would like to give myself is - Superwoman. If you ask me why, I do have the patience to answer your questions.
I am trying to be a philosopher of late...to rediscover the already known challenges of life. But then, life and living has been a favorite subject of so many over the centuries, and as long as life exists, the challenges of life will always have to be revisited. Not every experience in ones life can be passed down as a document or a fable, and its absolutely justified if you are asked to find your own way. Of course, when our parents tried to show us the way, we shoo'ed them off...at least I did, and now I get no suggestions though I ask for them!
Anyways, that has not really deterred me from making my decisions...but then, yes, I have always revisited all my decisions :) Not that I regret them, but yes, I do think of them. I know I haven't done my best yet, and I wait for the Lord to show me the way...Now, there are many who will say, that whatever happens for the best, and that all actions are guided by the supernatural power...if that is so, then why dont we accept every decision as god's own and learn to live by it? May be we shouldn't have grown up...and never had got into the ocean of conflicting thoughts...I watch my 4 year old son in awe, he believes his mom is the best! And me, I am always thinking...always revisiting...seeking and offering advice...whatever.
Anyways, you will not always find me talking about just this boring thing...I will have lots of other thoughts too here...and BTW, does anyone know of any piece of writing that is 100% fictional?
And yes, here is my BIG disclaimer - Whatever I write here, is just mine, in other words, copyrighted :) I am known to express my opinions in the most criticizing way always - but then, it is just an opinion, and they are highly dynamic. I welcome you all to share your thoughts on whatever I say...I love debates.
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